'人，因误会而结合，因了解而分开。。。 '

I like how this phrase puts it. We come together, with first impressions/ perceptions in mind. Portraying someone to be something like this, or that. From there on, we understand more of each other's lives, habits, interests and other mundane matters. From the daily musings, and chatter, we create more impressions; change or perhaps build on the prescribed perceptions.

So far so good, all sounds pretty much like how it should be.

but then again, how much interaction will it take to say that we know someone.

is it the quantity or the quality that matter? Would you safely say you know that person, just because you hang around him/her everyday? (*I dont like to place him in front of her, but then again, it comes out more smoothly. Perhaps its time for a change. Her/Him in the future. This will probably be raised up again through my study on language and gender)

Probably not? Unless you spend half the time, or maybe a quarter of that time, discussing things apart from food, drinks, professors and assignments. Inside jokes aplenty, and everyone gradually tune to one shared channel. The context of talk within that channel will then be centered about the situation and setting of the group. With some usage of deixis, talk could be carried perhaps just a little out of context, but just a little. It usually never deviate too far from the routine. Unless, there has already been emotional bonding.

Time for another question that may open another pandora box. We are understanding and perceiving people through every moment of interaction. But are we really understanding that person? or are we simply getting to know the person's facade? I believe most people have a self potrayal of who we really are, how we want others to see us, and how we should be. In our society that screams conformity, we put on a facade, to fulfill people's expectation of what we should be. From then on, we are bound to that facade. If for just one moment, we shed that mask off, people start to question " are you alright? you don't seem to be yourself."

So whats 'yourself"? would that be the one that you know? or the one that I know? this goes back to the title again. We built on perceptions based on what we know, and what we know might not be the actual case. More often than not, they are built on misunderstandings, or sometimes the lack of understanding.

People get closer, and one day, when the disguise fades off, we realise that things don't seem to be what they might be or should be. This is when the problem comes in. The bond built from misunderstandings becomes nothing. (this is just a hyperbole, you could tune it down a little to fit into your context)

Theres another way of looking at it, a deeper level. Like a show within a show. That perhaps, will be reserved for another day, when my eyes are not battling to stay open, and there isn't such a long wait list of readings.

For now, toodles!